Skinny v. "Curvy"
Degrees v. no degrees (or even multiple degrees v. 1 degree or less)
Working out v. not working out
Partying v. staying at home (I'm noticing this a lot between some of my friends who are all parents, I have friends on both sides of this argument)
Having kids v. not having kids
With a lot of these it seems that it is socially acceptable to pick on one side of the argument but not the other and that the arguments can be taken so far that relationships are ruined. Let's look briefly at some of these and see if you can relate at all.
Skinny v. Curvy:
A fat person can defend themselves by calling themselves curvy, or blame it on "genetics". These same people can tell someone else that they're too skinny, work out too much, have too much muscle, should eat a sandwich, or any other number of things. BUT if the skinny person were to say the opposite things to the fat person then the skinny person clearly hates fat people and is a jerk. The big person can say "you're a bag of bones, go eat something" and that's cool, but if you say "you're a fat ass, step away from the sandwich", you're an asshole.
Degrees v. no degrees:
Apparently you can rag on someone for getting a degree and trying to better themselves, but trust me, you are not allowed to tell the same person who lacks a degree that they are stupid for not going on in education. I realize that some people are drawn to school and others have no desire to sit in a classroom, but unless you're wanting to be a doctor without going to school, why does it bother you who went to school and who didn't? Congrats, you are picking on someone who has a degree to say they're smarter than you in "X" subject. This one really irritates me.
Working out v. Not working out:
I find this one hilarious. It's a personal favorite of mine when someone sits in front of me and says that that they want to lose 30+ pounds but they don't want to workout. I also love it when people tell me that working out is bad for you. Clearly. I am a huge fan of the saying that 80% of the key to success in weight loss starts in the kitchen, but you're still missing 20%. Also, if you're not willing to take care of that first 80% AND not do the other 20%, then you're probably screwed.
Partying v. staying in:
I get to watch this war on Facebook all the time, I feel like it's a little soap opera that I get to read every day. I have zero stance on this, I'm just watching. My two cents are that if you choose to have children and still go out to party that you take care of your kids first. You can choose to not go out and party but still spend your money on other things and be a crappy parent. I get to watch people talk about not affording clothes for their kids, but yet they can afford alcohol on the weekend. OR they talk about not affording heat for their house, scream religion at those who drink and label them as bad parents, but yet their closet rivals that of an major department store.
Finally, this one made a big splash just a couple weeks ago and it was 100% unintentional: *Disclaimer, this is my blog and unless you can behave don't comment*
Kids v. No Kids:
Holy Fancy Moses! I had absolutely no idea that there was such a divide between these two camps! Some people simply don't like kids (me and a lot of my friends), some people love being around kids (my sister teaches 3 year olds, some of my friends have multiple children, clearly for them). I don't think there is something inherently wrong with either of these ideas. I also realize that some people may end up with kids and still hate everyone else's kids. It works the same way with animals. I love my animals more than most people, but if your dog wants to hump my leg, pee on everything, or be smaller than my cat, then no. I will not like your dog. Does this make me anti-dog? Heck no! But yeesh! I was sent messages telling me I would be a terrible parent and I should never have kids simply because I was complaining about getting on a plane to Orlando (Disney) with screaming children. This is not my cup of tea. I didn't say anything to the kids or their parents, but I guess I should keep my thoughts to myself about not liking little Johnny who is screaming at the top of his lungs because he can't see Goofy yet. My bad. (sarcasm)
This entire rant brings me to my point. Why is your view better than mine? Why is my view better than yours? Why does there have to only be one thing that's right? And why are there so many socially acceptable one way streets on views? There are a lot of big things that I think most people agree on, but these other issues really don't impact anyone else. You think someone is too skinny? Unless they're unhealthy or asking you how to gain weight then leave them alone. What about too fat? I'm a personal trainer and I'm still not going to bug you if I think you're too fat. Now if you come up and directly ask me questions then I will give you brutal honest answers. If you're 45% body fat and need to lose 50 pounds, I'm not going to think it's cute when you call yourself "fluffy". Kids v. no kids? I don't care how many kids you have so long as you don't expect me to take care of them. Just don't turn around and tell me that I'm a terrible person because I don't like your kid. There are so many other issues; guns v. no guns, abortion, drugs, trucks v. prius, mac v. pc, rich v. poor, the list is endless!
I'm not trying to tick anyone off, I have just been noticing a lot of these arguments springing up more frequently. I find a lot of these things entertaining to hear the arguments, but then at the same time I get to see a lot of people get their feelings hurt or feel put down and there is no "socially acceptable" retaliation. Knock it off.
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